New Resources for Swingers and Polyamorous Relationships

Regardless of which type of relationship you're in, for the most part we're all aware that communication is key. However, consistent honesty and openness with one another is even more critical if you're in a relationship with multiple partners. Those involved have to take into account the feelings, thoughts, and needs of more than just one partner, be it sexual or emotional needs. It's a bit of a juggling act, and it's one that simply wouldn't be possible without communication between partners and a strong connection to the larger community.

As discussed in an Adam & Eve blog post, it's not uncommon for one person in the relationship to leave in search of a monogamous relationship. Much of the time, the reason can be traced back to undiscussed expectations within the community and a break in communication. So to make sure that everyone is happy and on the same page, it's important to be constantly in tune with what the others in your partnership are feeling.

Of course, doing so is a lot easier said than done. While there are plenty of resources available on communication for those in monogamous relationships, the options for those in poly or swing relationships are harder to come by. It's a reality that's especially frustrating when considering the additional complexities that come with these relationships, therefore making outside resources even more crucial.

Thankfully however, some companies have noticed the limitations for those with multiple committed partners, and are creating more opportunities for them to communicate better with one another, and others within the community.

For example, last November, Heavy reported on a new app called The Poly Life. The app, which is available for iOS users, was designed to help polyamorous families keep their lives and families organized.

Built by an anonymous group of developers and creators, the app allows users to create to-do lists and choose partner(s) to help with specific tasks. It also works in some ways as a social networking app by letting users make events and share posts worldwide with the poly community—a feature that can be just as useful for those in committed swinging relationships. They can use it as a means to talk to one another or reach out to others for an outsider's advice.

“I learned that many poly families use great tools like Google Calendar to keep track of their busy schedules, but there was nothing out there that was made specifically for their community,” one developer told Heavy. “They needed a tool that was customized for their lifestyle. They wanted to communicate privately and maintain their family agreements, and they felt they couldn’t do that on other apps and on most social media.”

There’s even a "relationship manager" option in the app that separates a user’s partners based on the type of relationship, whether it be sexual, emotional or otherwise.

But behind a screen isn't the only way that those in non-traditional relationships can reach out. In fact, some Brooklyn, N.Y., residents can just walk across the hall.

According to this piece in TimeOut, Hacienda Villa, an apartment complex in Brooklyn's Bushwick neighborhood, has been refurbished and is open to polyamorist and/or swing relationships. Put together by Open Love NY, the building has 15 bedrooms that range in price from $750 to $1,500 per month. Leon Feingold (co-president of Open Love NY) said that 12 of the 15 apartments sold in under a month. While you don't have to be in a polyamorous relationship to rent an apartment, you are required to be accepting and respectful of the other tenants life choices.

Of course, if you want to reach out to other swingers online, you can also use Everybody Swing's Help Others page. You can find postings from fellow swingers looking for advice, opinions, and sometimes just a friendly ear. It's a great way to connect with others and build a stronger community.

Having safe, new places to turn and interact with like-minded people is great for swingers and those in polyamorous relationships looking for help and advice, but it's also a testament to society's changing attitude towards the relationships' dynamics. Relationships with multiple partners may be still be taboo in the greater parts of society, but the increase in resources and welcoming places certainly gives the future a brighter outlook.

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